Do you go to bed at the same time as the person you share a bed with?

For those of you who share a bed with another adult… do y’all go to bed at the same time?

I’ve always been the earlier-to-bed person in my cohabiting relationships. I’m starting to wonder if that’s why any of those relationships have lasted more than a week. C-Man has gone to bed at the same time I have several times in the past couple of months, and it’s so creepy. It’s like he’s WATCHING ME. (In the dark. While facing the wall. He’s talented that way.)

But seriously, I have been taking the going-to-sleep privacy for granted. When I’m by myself, I can thrash around to get comfortable however I want. I can pull on the blankets. I can breathe without wondering if it’s too loud and annoying.

When he’s lying there awake, though, I can’t do any of those things. And I know he’s going to fall asleep before I do, and then I’m going to be ticked off that I’m not asleep yet and he is.

Why is this so complicated? Am I the only person in the world who has these issues?

(I got a spam email with the subject line “BE THE MASTER OF THE BED.” I was kind of like “Well, does that mean I can set rules about what time people can use it? ‘Cause I might give you money for that.”)

4 thoughts on “Do you go to bed at the same time as the person you share a bed with?”

  1. Sarah M.

    “And I know he’s going to fall asleep before I do, and then I’m going to be ticked off that I’m not asleep yet and he is.”

    This happens here too. Keith, without fail, always falls asleep before me, and then I lie there resenting the fact that he’s sleeping and I’m awake…

  2. Skye

    And I know I’m being ridiculous, because it’s not like my life would be better if he got less sleep!

  3. Grace

    Me three. Mark actually never falls asleep before I do, but I still don’t like it when we go to bed at the same time. It happens only very rarely, thankfully.

  4. Angelina

    I hate it when Philip goes to bed at the same time. For me the problem is that I can’t get to sleep hearing him breathing. I have been known to be mean to him if he gets into bed while I’m reading but before I’m ready to sleep, partly because he does it so cheerfully. I also can’t concentrate on reading when a person is breathing loudly next to me.

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